‘Play Hard to Get’ – The Five Ways that Will Definitely Work

Some years back I read this book The Single Woman by Mandy Hale and honestly, I loved parts about it but there were certain things that I absolutely love to this day today. One such line in the book read, ‘Sit your affections, your heart and your precious time out on the doorstep without so much as making him ring the doorbell first, and he’ll treat you like a doormat. Make him work a little to get next to you, and he won’t stop till you’re his.’

Let me not deny the fact that I really do believe sometimes it is best to keep all the feelings to yourself, not say a word and see who still cares to reach out. Sometimes it’s good to be involved in ‘play hard to get.’



However, the problem with this is that sometimes it backfires extensively and that is when you should be pretty ready. 

  1. Give them the attention they want – One major mistake that most people tend to make is giving each other the attention they need but not the attention that they want and that is where things go wrong. It is important to understand that there is a very thin line between giving the attention that the partner wants versus giving the attention that they need to make you understand the difference very clearly and then go further. Remember you’re trying to attract them and push their feelings away so be very careful about the attention part.




  2. Remember Newton's Second Law of Motion – Okay, sorry I know we’re not also geniuses when it comes to Physics and it is definitely not the second law of motion that I am talking about but the third one – to every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. So while you definitely want your crush to fall for you, you also need to remember to put in some effort because how else do you think they’ll ever fall for you? 

    Do that! Remember efforts versus efforts make an absolute strong win for you!

  3. Give Them Affection but Maintain Your Space – In a play hard to get situation it is definitely important to give them affection but remember to have your own little space – never compromise on that. The beauty of spending time apart is that it regularly reminds you how important the other person is to you. It allows you to miss this person.

    The truth is that you can't miss someone who's always there - and you want this person to miss you. Spend enough time apart to ensure the time you have together is as exciting, intense, and magical as it should be.

  4. Don’t Just Jump in for Sex – Sex is wonderful, but like all wonderful things, it becomes more wonderful when we have time to let the anticipation grow.

    Again, you don't want to wait too long because anticipation can kill you. Or, at the very least, kill the relationship. If you haven't had sex yet, then giving it sometime -- time to get to know each other on a deeper level - will make the sex that much better.

    So while you may really want the sex to happen make sure you do not jump right into it – give things time for them to look wonderful and yes, remember what I said about the anticipation grow part?

  5. Keep the Window Open Be Careful of Their Jump – While it is always a very good choice to keep the window open for your partner, it is also great to be careful if they’re jumping out. 

    Also, be very careful when it comes to you and the window - you should always be careful with whom you let in. Not all people deserve to get to know you on an intimate level.

Remember relationships are rather a beautiful thing and they give you a lot of beauty to live in but there are things you need to consider when it comes to these relationship details. To make the relationships work a little bit of play hard to get is good but remember when to begin and how to stop – that is the core of it and it is absolutely important you should know about it. Sometimes while you are trying to make things work with this play hard-to-get game you may end up making things worse for you.

And, if you consider things from my point of view I’d only say play hard to get because more often than not this game always works. Trust me on that!

Happy Reading!!!

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