How To Remain Positive In Life As Well As In Online Dating

Humans are often negative or upset by default. One need not “learn” to be sad for when a child is born, you can already see it crying. However, being happy and positive is definitely a task and has to be learnt. A wise man has said, “if you cannot do something about a problem, there’s no point whining about it and if you can do something, do it! Don’t whine”. Ah! The saying makes so much sense, doesn’t it?

Read along while I wake my inner philosophy coach! Mind you, the coach is full of wisdom. Fun apart, let’s dig into ways to being positive on a serious note.

Life can be referred to as a sequence of situations and events. It is through our state of mind that we deal with these situations. When our state gets imbalanced when encountered with one such situation, it is only then, we become upset, or in my case, a crybaby. How is one supposed to deal with these situations, you ask? To do so, it is vital to know the kind of situation you are into— is it in your control or not?



For the ones not in your control, you need to realise that there’s nothing you can do about it and whining shall make no difference. So why not cheer yourself, keep your head high and face the circumstances? I mean, you at least get to have an attention-grabbing story for social media when you are out of it. This is what everyone’s doing these days — life gives them lemons and they create a social media post out of it. I understand it isn’t that rosy but being negative is definitely not going to help you. Also, these are the times when you realise the power of acceptance.

The other category of situations is the one that is in our control — life majorly comprises such situations. A blend of consistency, hard work and patience are what helps you sail through problems when you actually have the power. For instance, you realise your physique is degrading due to a sedentary lifestyle and diet imbalance. It is you who has to be patient as well as disciplined to maintain the consistency to eat and exercise well. Again, it’s easier said than done. You might feel like giving up or take yourself into regular guilt trips and jealousy seeing fit people around you. Working shall only help you get out of your troubles, whining won’t.

A few points worth mentioning about staying positive are — never comparing yourself to anyone(this way you are only insulting yourself), giving things the time(nothing happens overnight) and accepting yourself the way you are, because if you don’t, who else will?

Inner Positivity While Dating Online

The power of acceptance fits equally well into online dating. You need to understand that you don’t need a partner to ‘complete’ you, you are complete in your own self. You need a partner to cherish and be the witness of your journey of life. You need them to share your ups and downs with them and they shall share theirs too!

When the bond that you share with your partner is gonna be so pious and pure, it certainly cannot involve lies. This brings us to our fundamental point to online dating — be honest to your partner and never try being what you are not. This brings in a feeling of distrust and wherever there exists fraud, dishonesty and distrust, things are bound to perish.

You need to accept your partner for what they are and not for what you thought they might be or what you want them to be. People get into a romantic relationship in the first place because they want to accepted and loved. Let them unravel their darkest secrets in your presence, without you being judgemental of their actions.

Respecting differences is equally important while you court someone. The initial stages of a relationship are all about being attracted to the similarities that two people possess. To keep up the relationship to later stages, effort needs to be put in to respect the difference and to live with them. This is how you grow together at the same pace — either one is supposed to slow down or the other one has to race up

In the kind of materialistic world that we live in wherein the attention span of people is too short, it is seen that people in this era are the most insecure ones. Make sure you and your online partner have no trust issues. You need to trust them for all their actions and they should confide in you too. There’s no other way round to form a coordinated and long-lasting bond.

Lastly, with the online or long-distance dating scenarios, there is an issue that needs to be addressed — you don’t get to meet your partner too often. This is certainly a tough form of dating but you need to form a rigid mindset and trust the process. Further, the time you meet your partner, it shall be worth your wait!

 

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